Steps to Getting Over an Affair

When an affair or betrayal happens in an relationship most people respond in a way that’s similar to a trauma. It’s a jolt our whole system at a core level. We lose faith in reality, we lose trust, we question our senses, and our whole world can seem to fall apart. Most affairs begin as…
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Does marriage counselling work?

Q: How many marriage counsellors does it take to change a light bulb? A: Just one, but the light bulb has to really want to change. Marriage counselling, if done by a skilled and experienced counsellor is highly effective for the vast majority of couples that actually WANT to improve their relationship. At least 80%…
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My partner doesn’t think we have a problem. What can I do?

It’s very common for one spouse to be more committed to improving things than the other. The reasons can be many – some hidden and some obvious. But in many cases it’s as simple as a “fear of change” that keeps someone in a state of denial – refusing to see that there is a…
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Can Your Marriage Survive An Affair?

“An Affair” doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage! Yes it can be one of the lowest, darkest moments of your entire life and dealing with the affair can be one of the most difficult challenges you and your spouse will ever face. As a marriage therapist for over 20 years, I’ve heard…
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We don’t communicate anymore. Can we get that back?

The number one complaint couples bring into my office is “we just can’t communicate anymore.” And my response….if you’re having trouble communicating – you’re having trouble handling the message. Underneath most communication problems lies a thorny 10 minute conversation that you haven’t had yet…and…that you NEED to have. Communication problems happen when people don’t trust…
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