It’s very common for one spouse to be more committed to improving things than the other. The reasons can be many – some hidden and some obvious. But in many
cases it’s as simple as a “fear of change” that keeps someone in a state of denial – refusing to see that there is a problem.
The thing is “life is short” and if you want to make your relationship the best it can possibly be then I suggest you stop waiting for your partner to change in order for
things to be better.
Take a leadership role in the marriage. Say to your partner, “I love you. I’m committed to this marriage and I want to make things better.” Ask them to come to a
consultation and if they won’t come then come by yourself.
Remember, one person can change a relationship. Don’t be passive and don’t just accept the status quo. Be a better partner yourself. Open your heart and ask
yourself, how does my partner experience me in this marriage? What is my partner concerned about? At my worst, what am I like to live with?
If you’d like to strategize about ways to engage your partner book a consultation with me. Just the fact that you’re coming to see a counsellor on your
own is a powerful message and this in itself can promote change in your relationship.
To start working with Sig Taylor, call our office or send an email to book your initial consultation.
