1-2-3 Magic

How to Manage Kids 2-12 Without Yelling, Stress, and Spanking The entertaining 123 Magic presentation provides parents, teachers and anyone involved in child care with straightforward techniques for managing children ages 2-12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking. Parents will learn how to control obnoxious behavior, the Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation and how to handle them, and what to do about such issues as chores, practising, homework, messy rooms, lying, and so on. The 123 Magic presentation deals with the frequent and ordinary, but aggravating problems that children present. The seminar is intended for parents of average children as well as parents of children with Attention Deficit Disorder. If the family is in counselling, the 123 Magic program can be an important part of therapy.

Parents find the 1-2-3 Magic program surprising effective because the workshop emphasizes several things that are different from any other parenting program:

1. Kids are not "little adults." Parents are encouraged not to see their children as rational and altruistic little beings who always respond well to logic in disciplinary situations.

2. The No-Talk-No-Emotion Rules. Since children are not little adults, attempts at reasoning are often useless and, even worse, sometimes lead to the Talk-Persuade-Argue-Yell-Hit Syndrome. This often involves parents getting too excited and angry, which has the paradoxical effect of reinforcing bad behaviour.

3. Controlling obnoxious behaviour and encouraging good behaviour require different tactics.
   A. Obnoxious behaviour is controlled with one, two, or three brief warnings followed by a short time out if necessary. The system is simple and easy to learn. Parents are, in fact, warned that they may be sceptical initially because it almost seems too easy.
   B. To encourage good behaviour, parents can choose from several tactics or combinations, including Sloppy PVF (positive reinforcement), the docking system, kitchen timers, charting, and natural consequences. The use of these methods is tailored to each situation, child and parent.

4. Testing and Manipulation. Parents are not ready to begin using the methods until they are taught to anticipate all possible negative responses from the children. The Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation are described and parents learn how to manage them.

5. Slipping. No one is perfect! Travel, illness, grandparents, and new babies can sometimes upset the program, but parents learn how to quickly get back on track.

6. The workshop addresses the most commonly asked questions. Parents are taught precisely what to do, what not to do, what to say, and what not to say, in most every situation. Over 15 of the most commonly asked questions are dealt with specifically, including: What do you do in public? How do you deal with uncooperative grandparents? What do you do if you are on the phone? What if the child won't go to his room? What do you do if the child wrecks his room?

Parents are encouraged to start the program immediately after attending the seminar. They will be pleasantly surprised and - sometimes pleasantly shocked - with the good results.

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Surviving Your Adolescents

How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13 to 18 Year Olds

Presented by Sig Taylor, MSW

Living with a teenager is no picnic. There are times when you must bite your tongue as they push toward independence. Or - if you sense there is trouble - there are times when you must take charge. This workshop gives you a step-by-step approach that will help end the hassles and offer concrete solutions.

• The basic difference between teens and their parents.
• How to evaluate the seriousness of your problems.
• What problems require "letting go."
• The Four Cardinal Sins (what not to do).
• What to do: Nothing, Consulting, Negotiating, Taking Charge.
• Tactics to combat Testing and Manipulation.

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